Nine buttons.
Small deliberate acts that help you respond differently to life and love.
One micro-moment at a time, find your way through the stress, the mess, and the space between what was and what's next.
Because you're not stuck here.
ReadThe book behind the method›
Life doesn't change when you know better. It changes when you respond differently.
Whether you're navigating divorce, relationship challenges, changes in intimacy and desire, parenting stress, career transitions, grief, sobriety, or the identity shifts that can follow major body changes, Press Differently offers a practical roadmap for creating healthy, balanced change that lasts.
Built around nine simple buttons, The Button Method™ helps you interrupt old patterns, regulate emotions, make better decisions, and take small actions that lead to meaningful transformation.
Because the space between what was and what's next can feel messy, uncertain, and overwhelming. This book helps you find your way through it—one button press at a time.
GuideHow to apply the method›
These How To Guides help take the method deeper into the moments that matter during specific life challenges and transitions. Because different seasons press different buttons differently.
The Weight of DesireNavigating Libido, Intimacy and Relationship Changes in the Era of GLPs and Rapid Weight Loss.
Managing the Narcissist in Your LifeProtect your peace. Reclaim your power.
Recovering from Abuse and ControlFinding safety in yourself again.
Parenting TeensLess reacting. More relating.
When You're Newly SingleFind yourself again before finding someone else.
Rebuilding After DivorceWhen everything changes, choose yourself.
Reconnecting with DesireRenew intimacy. Create the relationships you want.
Survival ModeSmall Steps Through Financial Stress, Fear, and Uncertainty.
After GoodbyeLove, loss and learning to live differently.
Sober CuriousExploring Identity, Relationships, and Life Without Numbing.
On the BrinkFinding clarity when your relationship is in crisis. Before you decide whether to stay or go.
UntanglingFinding your way during divorce. When everything feels uncertain, start with one next step.
LearnThe science behind the method›
Regulate. Risk. Reconnect. Repeat. Rewire.
Every response you practice — calm or reactive — strengthens a neural pathway. Repetition is what makes a pattern stick.
Small, deliberate acts in real moments build new wiring more reliably than big realisations on their own.
Labeling a response — PAUSE, NO, BRAVE — moves it from automatic to chosen. You step out of autopilot.
Press the same button enough times in real life and your default response begins to change. That's the rewire.
To learn more, read the book.
The Button Method blends science, story, and practical strategy into a guide you can return to
again and again.
Who is Bertie?›
Bertie is the small companion behind The Button Method™ — a curious, emotional, sometimes overwhelmed little reminder that being human can feel messy for all of us. Through everyday moments, Bertie helps explore how small choices can calm the nervous system, shift emotional patterns, and help us respond differently over time. You can follow Bertie through our social reels.
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